I hope you can find the energy to read the book. It's awesome.

This was one of the biggest issues in our marriage, although I wasn't diagnosed. He's a firefighter so I had to be the disciplinarian because he was gone 24 hours a day at least three times a week. As soon as he got home they'd run and "tell on me". He would soften any discipline I meted out. Granted, not being diagnosed I may have been overboard on some things. But it caused an environment where they thought they could manipulate him. Now that I'm diagnosed and we've been in counseling he gets the damage that was done and probably has contributed to the conflict I wrote about in my last post. They aren't used to him standing up for me. Are you two in counseling at any time? If not, would he be open so he can understand how important it is for you to have his support? I found this article and sent it to my husband thanking him for being my champion because I've never felt like he was until recently:
https://www.healthline.com/health/bi...e-with-bipolar