My husband is like that too. However we do not fight in front of our son. I'm the one that keeps the schedule. I'm the mean parent. cooking is also 3 meals for us. Honestly I would push her to get dx'd. She's 10 now but she needs to do basic care herself and occupational therapy can help. How is she doing in school? I know it's summer now. You sound exhausted. Could he cook dinner while you bath your daughter?