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Originally Posted by peaches100
My parents don't blame me for the abuse because they flat-out deny that any abuse occurred in the first place. The few times I have tried to tactfully tell my mom about something that felt traumatizing to me as a child, she has turned the tables on me and, yes, blamed me for what happened.
As an example:
Me: Remember when you used to take business trips? I remember it was so hard for me. I didn't want you to go.
Mom: Well, when I was home, you never showed any interest in spending time with me or talking to me anyway, so I figured it didn't matter.
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Same!
My grandmother always gets on me about how I dress. I always want my arms covered down to my elbows. I was trying to explain to her I'm insecure about them, and I think I'm that way because of trauma involving my mother. I was a fat kid and my mom dragged me in front of mirror in a rage (pointing out how fat I was and her words on my arms stuck with me) because she found out I was sneaking Oreo cookies.
Well, my grandmother basically just said naahhhh! That was it for her. It couldn't be a problem. I haven't mentioned it since.