So much for being willing to keep it to birthdays and Christmas. *sigh*

Stating that you are in very different places is not abusive.

I feel for you, had an old friend from the past attempt to reconnect after 15 years. I was polite, but refused to add her to my fb list. She considered that bullying. She's not in a good place and may never be. I ceased communication because I found her overbearing to begin with.