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Rapunzel said:
If you do some pondering and exploring your feelings, you might be able to remember when you felt some of those same feelings before, who it was related to then, and why you felt that way.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Thanks, Rapunzel. I think I have discovered a little of that because I had this intense memory from my childhood surface almost as soon as I walked out of T's door last time. I think there may be a connection, and I hope I will be able to T about this next time.

Perna, I'm beginning to see this is complex. I think I may be both transferring and projecting. Not clearcut. I think T gave me an important clue last time, when he said, "I can see how scared you are," which is right on. I am very, very frightened, and I believe this goes back to a childhood incident. I am fighting to not be put in this situation again. But there is more to it also--projection? I guess one reason transference came to mind was that quote at the URL you gave, that transference is evidenced by having a powerful reaction that is not justifiable to another person. For example, it could just be that this guy is a jerk and does things that make me angry because they are scummy things. My getting angry would not be transference or projection. But I can see I am overreacting, hugely, and that fits with the transference definition.