I'm engaged to be married to the love of my life. We really love each other so much and are due to marry very soon.
I have issues with fear of abandonment which stem from my childhood. My father died and my mother didn't really want me, she called me her burden.
She frequently threatened to leave home and would go off for hours at a time. No wonder I struggle with fears of abandonment. Everyone I've ever cared for has gone one way or another.
2 yrs ago, my boyfriend cheated on me. We got over this, and he swears he'd never do it again. But I am sometimes suspicious if he's texting late in the evening. We had a row recently because I saw a provocative picture on his instagram page (while he was flicking through) of a woman he used to know, who had sent him inappropriate messages about her sexual needs. I asked why he had followed her after her messages and Said I didn't understand why he'd want to follow her after that....that's all. He flew off the handle and packed all of his things, telling me we're over. Saying I was jealous and that I don't trust him.
He has stormed out before after a trivial row, saying he's leaving. He knows what my mum used to do.
Since then, he has refused to see me and says he wants to end our relationship/cancel the wedding. All only a month away. He says I'm making him ill.
We were blissfully happy the day before. This all feels too knee jerk.
Was I wrong to say what I said? Is he overreacting? How do I stop him splitting up from me? How do I get over my jealousy and stop it ruining our relationship? Please help.