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Originally Posted by Bill3
Remember that they are the parents, it is not your job to protect their egos.
What might they do if their egos are unable to deal with your assertiveness?
In general, how do they react when dissatisfied with what you are doing? You might want to research codependency and see whether it applies to your situation.
I would not use the term uncalled for. My advice is focus on what you want them to do going forward, not on what they are doing wrong.
One thing to consider about a letter is that they can keep it and use it bring up your exact words months, years later. They can easily refresh whatever wounds their egos might feel. Even after the letter there will be a need for some sort of discussion. For these reasons I think there are some advantages to using bullet points to guide a conversation, as ShadowGX mentioned.
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Thank you for this message. In the case if their egos can't handle my boundaries, then its best to just look elsewhere to build up my support. Thankfully they have listened to me before so theyre not being too self-important, but when I've tried to be assertive in the past its just turned aggressive or carried out at a bad time. Hoping at the right place and time they can handle what I want to bring to them.
Just took a few quizzes over codependency, the results states I'm not completely codependent but I have characteristics that I can relate to codependents, most notably my lack of emotional boundaries. Just have to be patient and keep enforcing them. Thanks for the advice!