Sometimes challenging a person's thoughts and feelings can also be called "gaslighting," and I don't know, if you ask me, it's a thin line. Anyone in any situation can just conveniently say "it's not about what I did, it's about the way you reacted to me, that's what needs to change here."

It IS about how you feel, and just from my standpoint, it seems to me like you are actually feeling skeptical of this interaction.

I mean, it's true that we can only control our own reaction to others, and not their behavior, BUT, that alone doesn't necessarily mean that you weren't blown off.