Hi September Morn,

I'm in agreement with all you say, good strategies.

One thing I'd like to add. A couple of times in my life I've had some suspicions about a relationship I have with a person and I've asked for clarification.

The clarification was that the person dumped me, there and then.

Now that's hard, and rejection sensitivity makes us fear this rejection more than anything, indeed it's even hard to write about it now. It goes right to the core. The sensitive person cannot deal with rejection and even healthy people are gutted by an unceremonious dumping.

So, a final tool in the strategy box is to develop the ability to take the worst, the thing we fear more than anything else, and to survive it, cold, right in the face - and then to move on.
No excuses, no denial, no rationalising, just - they didn't like me, and I accept that.

It's a big one.

Cheers, Myzen