Freewill - I wish your son could have reached out to you and embraced you with compassion - but I will say - for your sake - he is young yet and since he did not ever, thankfully, experience life as you have then he may not have any way to put it into context and he has not lived enough of life or had enough of life experiences to come to any understanding of other people's lives, their pain, their terror, their fears, even their joys. I know when I was in my 20's and, even though I had by then experienced abuse, all I wanted to do was run from it and forget it - go to work and then hang with friends. I am ashamed to admit that I did not reach out as often as I could or should have to others who needed me - it was easier just float along in my own little life and ignore the bad bits in others lives.
I hope when your son has some more life experience under his belt that he can begin to understand your pain and your coping mechanisms and come to validate you - his Mom.

As always gentle (((((hugs)))))))))