Esme, My idea of going into private practice was to take it easy- do a little good work, have a ton of family time, treat some easy cases. I thought you were going to be one, and I let you be my favorite at first, exchanging funny emails and keeping it light. We are the same age, and you seemed very put together. I made a mistake in telling you exquisite and everything had to change. Boundaries in lock down. Wife, wife wife, wife. I told you sublimating is the highest of the defenses, that and humor. Thus we recall ourselves to ourselves, and those boundaries are starting to work; you are getting better and I am holding the space, holding it tight.