Why is that one is not expected to keep the same career or dog breed or taste in alcohol, clothing, color schemes etc their entire life but somehow is expected to keep the same spouse. I have someone in my family who is completely miserable with their spouse and their spouse with the family member -and they each admit they are miserable with the other - but they made a vow at 22 and so oh well we are stuck. I get it can be hard to leave someone -but miserable is no way to spend life when there are options. FM just spent a couple of nights on my couch before going back home.