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Originally Posted by stopdog
Why is that one is not expected to keep the same career or dog breed or taste in alcohol, clothing, color schemes etc their entire life but somehow is expected to keep the same spouse. I have someone in my family who is completely miserable with their spouse and their spouse with the family member -and they each admit they are miserable with the other - but they made a vow at 22 and so oh well we are stuck. I get it can be hard to leave someone -but miserable is no way to spend life when there are options. FM just spent a couple of nights on my couch before going back home.
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I can't speak for anyone else of course, but it's how I was raised. I was even raised that people keep the same employer! That was one reason I struggled so much with getting laid off after 14 years with the same company. I felt like I had done something wrong having to go out and find a new job.
I understand about the whole vows thing too. I consider my marriage vows sacred, even though I don't go to 'traditional' church anymore, they're still sacred to me. And this is why I ran away from therapy 3+ weeks ago. As I told t today on the phone, I realize now that I ran away from me when I left. That was when she said "Will you remember that you said that?" I told her I wrote it down so I will. And I actually did write it down.
Oh boy the next couple months are going to be interesting aren't they?
