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Originally Posted by stopdog
Why is that one is not expected to keep the same career or dog breed or taste in alcohol, clothing, color schemes etc their entire life but somehow is expected to keep the same spouse. I have someone in my family who is completely miserable with their spouse and their spouse with the family member -and they each admit they are miserable with the other - but they made a vow at 22 and so oh well we are stuck. I get it can be hard to leave someone -but miserable is no way to spend life when there are options. FM just spent a couple of nights on my couch before going back home.
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I don’t get it either. Miserable is no way to live if you are that unhappy it’s better to leave.
At my wedding reception my father kept saying to me “Are you happy? Because if you are not happy, it’s not too late. We can make this whole thing go away. Just make sure you are happy”. He was saying it in a silly tone of voice as to be playful but he was trying to convey that it’s okay if it didn’t work out. (August 12th will be 12 years married for us but we’ve been together for 18 years total)
I also didn’t get married in a church as thats just not my thing-so I don’t know if religious beliefs are playing a part in your family members situation.
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