Art what if he was either subtly or overtly pressuring you to do/not do something different? Like stop taking classes or stop losing weight or stop cutting your hair? It makes me angry, because you clearly have a need to continue, and it seems you quit because of his attitude towards it. At the end of the day, it is money you earn, time you spend, it doesn't take away from your household budget and it makes you (mostly) happy. Why does he get to control this?

I think I am projecting, I apologize.