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Originally Posted by ArtieSwimsOn
H just called to let me know he will be home late cuz he's up north a bit. I told him "I'm going back to therapy briefly". He laughed. Then he said the same person? or someone new? I said no the same person. I do NOT want to start over that would take forever. He said well I hope it's not for another 6 years. I said no it will not be. That after I had the panic attack over the weekend I knew I had left too soon. He said something about I need to do what I need to do. But I could hear disdain in his voice. Damn it. I should have waited til he was home before I told him but it just kinda came out before I could stop it.
Now I'm questioning myself. Maybe I can still go in there Thursday and apologize and tell her I made a mistake calling her and I should not have come back. I don't know what I am doing.
Why can't I just stand up to him and tell him this is what I want?!
How do others with spouses that don't want them in therapy deal with this? Am I wrong to want both? Am I wrong to want to be the best me I can be for him, for our marriage, for our son?
Why do I feel so defective right now?
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Do you think your husband is an ideal to be followed in terms of having halfway decent emotional intelligence?
If not, I wouldn’t go by what he says.
(If it isn’t abundantly clear — his responses to your going to therapy are in and of themselves, pretty bizarre and reflective of where he is (or rather not) emotionally. Even if therapy was truly objectively destructive to your well-being, I don’t see any of his responses as being remotely emotionally mature, respectful or healthy.)