Why don’t you focus on being the best you for you? And everyone else can go screw themselves.

The message may not have been delivered well but there are some things to listen to there. This isn’t a criticism, art, but I do want to say that speaking from experience, to have a spouse who is indecisive or anxious or lacks confidence in themselves can be really stressful. You feel like you’re responsible for them too. It’s real pressure to think someone else, another adult, depends on you like that.

He fell in love with you. Be you, not an appendage of his. If you think you want something, pay attention to that before wondering what he wants. If he doesn’t like it, let him deal with it (and it actually sounds like he would).

Art, I don’t think you ever wanted to leave therapy. So go back if you want to go back, and screw what you think anyone else wants. Because living your life according to what others want is not the way to be the best you. And it sounds like your childhood again.

Trust yourself.