In fact, when I told him I was emailing a therapist to set up an appt, he told me he didn't want me to go. So I went for the first 2 months or so without telling him. Once I told him, I decided he was never to know my therapist's name. I highly suspected that he would eventually call him up and be terrible. All he was allowed to know what that it was a male therapist. I even went so far as to clear the GPS cache in the car and hide my parking receipts from him, which is why I now have every parking receipt for 2 years worth of sessions.