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Can you identify when those feelings toward him begin?

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Almost as soon as he opened his mouth the first time we met. He told me I would have to stop seeing my therapist. You can bet I loved that! Our second meeting also contained friction. Part of it is the way he says things, very dogmatic, not admitting that other ideas exist besides his own or giving me space to respond. T has told me he is a black and white thinker (we all are at least a little bit, but this guy is very much so), and I guess that rubs me the wrong way.

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Have you considered telling him in a professional courteous way that sometimes you don't feel he's being neutral?

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">I have told my lawyer and she is watching out for this.

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Maybe the feeling your are having about him specifically are feelings you are having about the whole process.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post">Yes, I've thought of this too and mentioned it to T! I have a lot of anxiety about the process and this guy has become somewhat of a target. However, at my last session I was an equal opportunity anxiety dumper, as I dumped on both the process, this guy, and other players as well.

I think I have a lot of work to do in therapy next week. I think my first thing to do will be to give T some more space to respond. I was so rushed at the end last time that I didn't allow him any space. I filled up that room all by myself. Not happy about that as T and I usually give each other a comfortable amount of space, but I'll try to do better this time. I need to not wait until the latter part of the session to bring up the important stuff.