Ugh, I'm so sorry, Art. I'd be a mess, too.

First, as QM said, his comment about what he wanted to do after the phone argument is extremely manipulative. (Even if he did legitimately feel that way.) And makes it sound like he needs therapy, too...though I get the sense he's the type who would never go.

The thing he said about not wanting to hear your worries would bother me, too. It makes me think of what my H said a few months ago, where all I talk about is therapy (so not true!) And I was like, "well, you said you wanted me to share more of what was going on in my head, and this is what's going on in my head right now, so..." He's been better about it since then.

Your H clearly doesn't understand anxiety, because, as I'm sure you know, "stop worrying" does NOT work! Along with "there's nothing to be anxious about," etc. I'm sure you wish you didn't worry so much or that you could be more decisive--I know I do (about myself!) anyway--and it's not like you're doing this on purpose to annoy your H. Sorry, I'll stop ranting, I just feel for you.

Any way you can talk to your T before next week? (Or is it this week you see her?)