I can relate on two fronts. I was the guy that typically dated a week then gone ( in my youth) . Im in my 50's now and have been dating and am engaged. I feel I have made incredible progress and dont create cognitive distortions anymore and when I do, I see them for what they are. Sadly she backed out of a recent house purchase leaving me on the other side of the coin and I can see her "over night" change. Im hoping both time, understanding and time on this site will help.