I wonder if he could find a volunteer opportunity or exercise program or adult school...something constructive that gets him out of the house.

If you were to include him in everything, then you would be excluding yourself from opportunities that are important to you: opportunities to be alone or to be with friends.Especially with girl friends: time with them is important and as you know it isn’t the same if people’s SOs are included.

If he got out of the house would you feel so drawn to include him in everything?

There is nothing at all wrong with wanting more freedom. Maybe you are not ready to “settle down” in a more homebody kind of way. Maybe you will never be ready for that. I think that is is okay to have the feelings you have, to watch them, live with them, and see what develops, without judging them.

If he can’t tolerate your freedom, your being out of the house, then that is something that he needs to work on. Keep on being you!