Quote:
Originally Posted by DP_2017
What I'd say he means, he would tell you if it's too much or you are crossing boundaries. However, it IS good you are making your own, with attachment issues, that is very helpful. I speak from experience.
Mine has unlimited access to him in any form BUT he wont always answer... and he never answers on weekends, holidays or evenings (unless its related to my evening session) and I limit myself the best I can because I can't stand being ignored and because I need to create my own boundaries for my sanity. attachment is bad enough without being sucked in too much.
Sounds like you and your T are doing good with this. I get the need to want to reach out more though... but it's good you are able to have the strength to fight the urge.
|
Thanks DP... I think you might be right in your interpretation. If this is the case though doesn't this approach just set me up for inevitable rejection. I mean who knows where the boundary lies? I'll only find out when or if I cross it and then it will lead to more pain? This doesn't seem right to me..
Any other relationship professional or personal I am very good at understanding and knowing the boundaries so it's not something I generally have difficulty with yet in this case I am completely thrown.... I do have difficulty reaching out to others so do wonder if this is one thing it would help with.