I never shared my therapy with my H. He knew I went but I never shared about the sessions with him because I felt like it was mine. Just for me. I would only share if something came up in therapy about him-which was rare. And he usually responded accordingly. Normally he didn’t complain about the money aspect because it was coming out my pocket and not our joint funds.
Art, your H is or was just using money as an excuse to complain about deeper issues. He seems very jelious of the relationship with the therapist but he does not get to have the best of both worlds where it’s like don’t lean on me but don’t go to therapy either.

I don’t disagree with your H on all his points, either though. However someone who has never been in therapy will not understand all the stuff that could come up with going.