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Originally Posted by Glowworm80
Thanks DP... I think you might be right in your interpretation. If this is the case though doesn't this approach just set me up for inevitable rejection. I mean who knows where the boundary lies? I'll only find out when or if I cross it and then it will lead to more pain? This doesn't seem right to me..
Any other relationship professional or personal I am very good at understanding and knowing the boundaries so it's not something I generally have difficulty with yet in this case I am completely thrown.... I do have difficulty reaching out to others so do wonder if this is one thing it would help with.
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I think a lot of therapists sometimes do set clients up for unnecessary pain when it comes to emails and texting. Rather than being upfront about what they can and can't offer as an additional service, these therapists use vague language and are even condescending about how the limits will be set (allowing or not allowing email, for instance). Boundaries are usually set naturally, regardless of the relationship. If a therapist offers their email to clients, they should explain when they're available and what they can do. If I asked my T if I could email them, I'd want more of an answer than they'd worry about boundaries. To me, that says that he doesn't really know the answer.