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Originally Posted by Fuzzybear
I couldn’t have asked for a worse “family” ... I don’t know why some people have children. I was about to reply to a post which said “how to refuse unwanted advice” or something. How to refuse belittling, useless “advice” ..
Some (fairly standard) advice would be “create your own family” - yes I’ve tried this, I’ve found some lovely people. And some.. not quite so lovely
I’m not even sure about posting this.  Please be gentle
The maternal unit would have said “it’s my decision” whether I ate or not. (Whether I live or die  )
Some parents are really quite talented  at treating their children like garbage. Shows superior intelligence? They would think so
Please no posts telling me to “move on”
And if anyone tells me I’ve been “posting about this for years” or something. Don’t bother...(I was given this “supportive” advice about another issue on
another forum... most people here do not know each other. If they take the time to know someone they wouldn’t say insulting garbage like that to another human being.
I’m just having a bad day.
So my question is, how to refuse insulting, useless “advice” - I’ve had my fill of it, especially from the “medical profession”  (I don’t live in the USA) and if I could “move on” from ever “needing” to see any doctor, you better believe it. I would!
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how to refuse insulting, useless “advice”
Our families touch us deeply. They know how to hit the buttons. We are so vulnerable around them. But we are all faced with them. Everybody has family and those who don't wish they did.
The trick is to set-up boundaries. (ref. Dr. Townsend). We have to protect ourselves from "tough love" at times. We have to learn when to let things in and when to let things roll off your back. We have a saying in my household, "you need thick skin to live here". The good news is that the thick skin is now carried into the workplace where it is needed there too.
Don't let others steal your joy!