(((((raging vortex))))) first know that what follows may be hard to hear but please hear me out....

question....you know your mother has abused you and your mother continues to cause you problems. what are you gaining by continuing to have contact with her?

answer this and you will have your answer on what you may need to do to help you not be constantly affected by her.

my own situation was different my parents were not my abusers but my abusers were related to me. they went to prison, did their time and got release. before their release I was not sure what I wanted to do so I got a protection order against the first one before his release.

upon their respective releases they tried contacted me. the second one I did not get a protection order against for a long time.

I put up with that ones cyber and real time harassment and I would get upset when it happened.

finally my therapist and wife asked me what was I gaining by continuing to allow this person to do what they were doing. I was allowing it by omission (by not setting my boundary line and not enforcing my boundary line) what was I gaining by allowing them to continue...

At first I was very angry that they would think I was allowing this to happen. then it dawned on me wow by dont nothing but complaining time and time again that abuser was getting what they wanted my emotional turmoil. what was I gaining... change is hard. they had abused me and my mind thats what was supposed to happen, they were family they were allowed... I had so many reasons and excuses why I didnt take action on this second abuser.

finally one day I said enough, I called the police, went in to court, got the restraining order and enforced it. that abuser felt my boundary instead of my betting hurt emotionally. it took a few more pushes and enforcing my line and my not being a compliant victim...but I am now free of that abuser.

so now I ask you what is the gains of this putting up with whats going on? where is your line that you are willing to put up and enforce to protect your self and your mind?