Oh man, this is a tough one. On the one hand, it's a termination of your therapy with him, but it's not a termination of therapy. If it were the later, then a review of the kind you laid out would make sense, the result of a successful conclusion to your therapy.


Since it's more about having to leave him, could you both talk about a plan you might have going forward? Things to build on? Pitfalls to watch for?

I agree that just saying it's a success because you don't feel that he's rejecting you is pretty lame, but who knows how he's functioning with chemo brain. Maybe it's all he feels he can offer. In which case, asking more about a plan and strategies for your road ahead might be the way to go.


I would definitely let him know that his idea is like saying that feeling you have no control over the situation is better than feeling like it's your fault--where is the empowerment in that? I mean, I guess it's what therapists say about childhood abuse, but it doesn't seem to fit here at all.