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Originally Posted by ShadowGX
s4ndm4n2006 summarizes what I would say very well.
The only thing I might say different is where "unconditional" comes into play. The older comments have good points on that. I'm torn where I want to say it's not exclusive to parent/child relationships. Other family relationships would fall under that too I think. In those cases though it's because you "have to" - you're stuck in the relationship until the end of your life so unconditional in this case is forced. Of course, you can hate your family, but you're also more inclined to try to forgive them because of what that relationship means. Hope I'm making sense. >.< Unconditional doesn't make it better I don't think.
My problem with conditional love is the conditions. Some people have too many or are unreasonable about them. I'm probably one of those people thanks to my MI making it hard for me to trust and feel secure. Once I do trust and decide I really like or love a person, I find it's rather easy for me to love them and work out issues where most people tend to give up if things get difficult.
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I don't think the unconditional part that I described, in my mind, is debatable. The reason being, is that I stated what is the ideal form of love and indeed it is unconditional but that's not to say very many of us are capable of that purest form of love. If we were, the world would be a vastly different place. Only one person I know that is capable of that but that's a subject for a different forum.
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The older comments have good points on that. I'm torn where I want to say it's not exclusive to parent/child relationships. Other family relationships would fall under that too I think. In those cases though it's because you "have to" - you're stuck in the relationship until the end of your life so unconditional in this case is forced.
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if you're a family member and stuck in the relationship as in you can't stop being a brother, son, etc... that's not love either, that's a relationship and relationships exist without love being present.. It only represents a description of who you were born sharing the same parents. There is no unconditional love requirement for being a sibling or a child.
Being more specific, my definition of love is not anything that has to do with obligation, expectations or a framework that exists based on traditional ideas, it's simply this: A choice.
You can be a brother, sister, friend or child etc and not love those people. The fact that you are in a relationship does not by any means mean you love those people it simply means there is a social or familial connection.
Love is separate from that. I am my mother's son but I haven't really loved her for awhile because I cut off ties from my whole family years and years ago.