Thanks for the advice. I think my hesitation comes from seeing my mom deal with it and the effects meds had on her- she'd sleep all day and sometimes forgot to pick me up from school or nearly burn the house down because she left something on the stove... but she's been on her meds for years and has help down her job at a grocery store for a long time now. I could maybe deal with meds (if I need them) but my husband is a different story. He would want to be on meds if he were diagnosed BUT I think he might need too because his mood swings are so extreme now that our arguments are like TNT explosions that snowball. Trying to lead by example but it's tough.