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Originally Posted by Jersey 2.0
Art, also with the physical improvements you’ve made lately..dropping weight, wearing nicer clothes, more confident..that could also be sending mixed signals to H and he might be going on the defense. So, you’ve grown emotionally and spiritually and shrunk physically and he’s still in the same spiral.
This whole thing could be two-fold.. like MP just said... you may be missing the one who got away and your H could be thinking he’s got the one that’s gonna get away. Though I think if he really wanted to work on it than he would agree to try everything aka marriage counseling.
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This is starting to make a whole lot of sense. H insisted we fix the a/c in my car shortly before my recent trip. (I really didn't mind not having it.) So we spent the $$ and got it fixed. Then while I was out of town, he put a radio in my car (which it didn't have either and I also didn't care about and never asked him to do.) He said he thought I was punishing myself by suffering without them. I said I didn't feel that way, it really didn't bother me not having either as my commute to work is not that long and I preferred spending $ elsewhere (ahem like on therapy) rather than on my car. Maybe he does feel threatened somehow by all the changes I've made esp the physical ones.