This is starting to make a whole lot of sense. H insisted we fix the a/c in my car shortly before my recent trip. (I really didn't mind not having it.) So we spent the $$ and got it fixed. Then while I was out of town, he put a radio in my car (which it didn't have either and I also didn't care about and never asked him to do.) He said he thought I was punishing myself by suffering without them. I said I didn't feel that way, it really didn't bother me not having either as my commute to work is not that long and I preferred spending $ elsewhere (ahem like on therapy) rather than on my car. Maybe he does feel threatened somehow by all the changes I've made esp the physical ones.