Work on your independence first. when you are solid in what you want in life and what you like, what you want to do going forward and are happy with just you and you alone, that is the time when it's best to find a mate. when they are the icing on the cake of life and not a necessity.

It's not an easy task nor is it one that many find success in, most people succumb to the loneliness instead of being content with themselves and end up seeking out someone to make them "whole" I believe this is the wrong way to approach it.

There is nothing wrong with being happy as a single persona and being independent and I dont' think that means that you have to exclude being with someone but it shifts your reasons for seeking someone out as a mate. When you don't need it, but would enjoy the company of a mate without the attached "need" issues it's a whole new type of relationship, I believe.

But you can't do it by thinking of being with someone "someday" or focusing on that. just find your own way, find your own fulfillment and enjoy life as it is now.. You'll know when you're ready as you won't be asking these questions anymore!

Hope this helps.