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Old Jul 19, 2018, 09:32 PM
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Originally Posted by ArtieSwimsOn View Post
t also said that I should start separating out my money from his and put my whole paycheck in a different bank account so he can't take all the money. and if he does leave, to change the locks immediately. i can barely even go there in my mind right now. she was asking me all kinds of questions about our finances, about how much money he actually makes, said i probably make more than he does from what i've said in the past, that he probably couldn't afford to support himself without me, etc. i'm in complete denial like she said.
I am not sure that would help—Arizona is a community property state. I did my first divorce there. The divorce was very cheap, and we didn’t have any assets or debts in common fortunately, plus he waived his right to everything out of guilt for being an alcoholic, and I waived mine in turn, but it sounded like if we’d had assets in common everything would be split 50/50.

I don’t get the impression your husband is the kind of guy would suddenly abscond with your entire savings. He seems pretty passive in terms of taking action.

I do think it might be smart to consult a lawyer beforehand if you think leaving him is becoming a serious possibility.
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