(((Art))) I am not one to give advice on ending marriages, since I spent over 10 years with abuser 2 and almost 10 years with abuser 3. I knew that I would be better off without him, but I was terrified to let him go. Fear of the unknown vs. Put up with the familiar.

I do not think your h will leave you. I think it's a threat, and it was effective, because here you are tied up in knots about it days later. And it's scary and I wish you didn't have to go through it!