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Originally Posted by atisketatasket
I am not sure that would help—Arizona is a community property state. I did my first divorce there. The divorce was very cheap, and we didn’t have any assets or debts in common fortunately, plus he waived his right to everything out of guilt for being an alcoholic, and I waived mine in turn, but it sounded like if we’d had assets in common everything would be split 50/50.
I don’t get the impression your husband is the kind of guy would suddenly abscond with your entire savings. He seems pretty passive in terms of taking action.
I do think it might be smart to consult a lawyer beforehand if you think leaving him is becoming a serious possibility.
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Yeah, I think you're right about this being Arizona. I wouldn't do it anyway, because like I said, I think it would just force his hand if I did and right now, that's not what i want to do. I may consult a lawyer anyway, even though I'm not going anywhere at least for the foreseeable future. I don't want to split up. If anybody leaves it will be him.
I don't think he's that kind of person either. Deep down he is a good, decent man and I know it and that's why I love him and what makes all of this so hard.
Thank you.
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Originally Posted by StressedMess
(((Art))) I am not one to give advice on ending marriages, since I spent over 10 years with abuser 2 and almost 10 years with abuser 3. I knew that I would be better off without him, but I was terrified to let him go. Fear of the unknown vs. Put up with the familiar.
I do not think your h will leave you. I think it's a threat, and it was effective, because here you are tied up in knots about it days later. And it's scary and I wish you didn't have to go through it!
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i agree about fear of the unknown vs put up with the familiar. he's never been abusive and he's not now and i am not afraid of him. i am however afraid of starting over
without him.
thank you.