When I was with my adult daughter’s father he was abusive. I would keep giving him a chance to change. I left him right before her 2nd birthday. My youngest daughter her dad and I were together until he started using drugs. I offered to help him get into rehab and he declined. I told him my lifestyle was not the same as his and I wished his well. I did not hear from him for a few years. Then he got clean and started working better paying jobs. I have not wanted to be in a relationship since then. When you get in a relationship with someone you take a chance on that person breaking your heart. I’m not interested in doing that. Plus I have a young daughter I do not want a man around my daughter. I have seen on my local news more than once police officers and teachers being arrested for molesting minor children. You just can not trust people now days. Not enough to invite them into your home.