To tell you the truth I don't have good tips for you regarding routine because the reason why I follow such a strict routine is anxiety. Routine helps to keep the most intense anxious feelings at bay. If I can't do my morning routine (and I get up extra early for work to do it), I get very off-kilter.

So for me, its comforting and I don't know if that would help you. Perhaps if you think of it as a something comforting -knowing what comes next (I'm going to do this, then that, then the other thing), knowing what to expect- perhaps, as I say, this could be a comfort to you. It would just take a while and some practice to get there. I wish you the best of luck.