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Originally Posted by Dnester
Because I want to know why I have certain behaviors. Example: being very comfortable around topics such as sexual abuse. I have been that way since I was about 7. Also just being really uncomfortable about sex in general. Among other things. Also to I was a very sexual child. I have no answers to how I got this way. Also some bad sexual impulses I have. I only remember sexual play with peers. It doesnt explain were all of my issues come from. I desperately need to know in order to heal but that hasnt happened yet because I have no answers only specualtions. So she suspects something may of happened to me I dont remember.
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Well, I certainly can't comment on your specific case. What you have shared about your behaviors and feelings isn't nearly enough for me to make any assumptions one way or another. Whether these things are indications of possible sexual abuse depends on a much bigger context of your childhood upbringing than what you have shared. But I definitely don't want to get into more details because it'd be inappropriate to analyze your childhood here. I do believe it's possible to get some important insights on these things that trouble you just by talking about them in session if the therapist poses questions correctly. But I am certainly not the one to judge that since, as I said, I don't have enough information.
Regardless, EMDR is not a method for bringing up memories and any therapist who suggests EMDR for that purpose is not trustworthy in terms of their competence and their ethics. If she is certified to do EMDR she should know better. And if she is not EMDR certified therapist I wouldn't even consider doing it with her.
What I don't understand is, if you need to know this so desperately, why don't you do more of your own research in terms of what is and isn't possible, safe and reliable? Why not just contact EMDR training center to see for yourself what EMDR is and isn't good for? Just talk to competent people who are trained in that method and see what they say. Learn more about the procedure.
But you don't seem to want to learn more. When people tell you that EMDR is not for the purpose of bringing memories you dismiss it. Why? If you want to dig for memories then it'd only make sense to, at least, make sure that what you are about to do is
a) appropriate for that purpose
b) save
c) is done by a trained practitioner who knows what they are doing
To be honest, I am not aware of any procedure/method that was specifically designed for bringing memories and that includes hypnosis. I know that memories may come spontaneously during certain procedures but they may not at all be the memories you are looking for. And, also, they may come spontaneously at ANY time. They may come to you when you are driving.
There is no method at this time that can magically pull out from your mind exactly what you are looking for. Any therapist or other practitioner who tells you that it's possible is either utterly delusional or a charlatan or just someone who wants to impose their agenda on you. In any case they shouldn't be practicing.