I think you need to create some distance from him. I agree with AAAAA. I know because I had to do this with my ex. We had a domestic violence incident so I WAS able to get an injunction (basically a restraining order). When someone can manipulate you like that - it's best to create as much distance as you need to get YOUR HEAD straight so that you can deal with them. My ex and I talk now. He is in AA and abuse counseling. I dropped the injunction on February 12th because I have gotten my ability to stand my ground in HOW MUCH contact I will have with him.

I think he's controlling you because he knows what he thinks are your weaknesses. My ex did the SAME EXACT THING. If you create some distance, it will give you clarity and strength. I just speak from my personal experience.

Take care!