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Originally Posted by raging vortex
so I'm a listener on this other website and this guy from australia wanted to talk about his issues to me
I listened and gave advice and he's like.. do you know something, you are so boring
me: I'm here to listen, not to make things interesting
I left feeling pretty upset
how can a listener be " boring", or " interesting"
you just listen and give appropriate advice
I don't get the concept of that.. if listeners are supposed to be " interesting", what makes a listener interesting?
anyway quite upset over it
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maybe he expected more humor in your responses
maybe he expected more then just a generic response....
let me show you...
I sit here and listen to my kids...
child....Miney wants out
me..... ok go let her out.
appropriate and generic.
well the other morning I made my listening and responding more interesting...
Child.... Miney wants out
me ......What again?! man too bad this dog doesnt know how to open the door herself huh. I guess you need to let her out huh, unless you want a swimming pool in the kitchen.
Child....giggle giggle, Mommy you are going to make communicating interesting today.
that started an all day war on who could really listen and not only give expected responses but make it interesting and funny. the children learned a lot about how its different to just listen. and listen as if they are interested, and respond vs responding in a way that got others to listen to them.
there really is a difference in just listening or listening with interest, responding or responding with interest.