The protector part may also be working off "old fears" rather than thinking you are not ready to know. The script she is using will probably be the same script she adopted during the trauma time, rather than being of current awareness, if that makes sense. For us, our shut down protectors were terrified of getting hurt more for telling, for instance. They felt adult to us so we thought they were about present day adult things, but we discovered they were young children who "appeared" adult and terrifying to shut us down in childhood, so we wouldn't get hurt more. They just kept doing the same job in the same way for all those years.

T used IFS techniques to help us make contact with those shut down protectors and it was actually very easy to change their script once we had oriented them to the present day and the fact that we couldn't be hurt by the abusers for telling anymore.


They responded by allowing some of the worst memories to seep through in way that was undeniably real and we've been out of denial since then.