Thanks LT. She was all over how h doesn't make a consistent amount week to week cuz he's a contractor. Yes there was one point where he was working less than part time but he's not anymore, plus he works whatever jobs they have for him on the weekends. Some weeks are better than others but he averages about the same as me after taking out his expenses. When I explained that, she said I was protecting him and that he is not a good provider. I really didn't understand that. She's so focused on the tax form that isn't a true representation because he takes the deduction for the miles he drives and makes it look like he earns less.

Besides the fact that I don't want to be "taken care of" in that sense. I like working and knowing I am helping provide for my family.

I didn't even think about maternal countertransference. She never had kids, so yeah, likely I suppose. Hope she gets a handle on it before next week or I'm gonna have to enforce a boundary on her for once!