Are you in love with a fantasy which is now a nightmare? There is always someone else to love. But not when you’re pining for a past love.

Your discomfort is real, however it will keep on happening if you focus on what might have been.

I suggest you practice mindfulness, setting relationship goals and anything g else that makes your discomforts become learning lessons.

If you still feel challenged you may like to see a therapist. I’ve been in that situation a couple of times and it hurts - until I decided I was worth more than hurt.