And, by the way, many people who were abused DO become abusers. The majority of them, in fact And vice verse most abusers (if not all) were victims of abuse at some point. It's a very inconvenient fact for people to digest but it's a fact. We, as a society, love to divide the world into "good" and "bad" people. We believe that the person is either a victim or a perpetrator and that they can never be both when, in most cases, they are both, but this is too complex for our simplistic brains to digest.



Without hijacking the OP's thread--because I think this would be important info for them, too--I would like to challenge you to provide supporting evidence for this claim that most people who were abused become abusers. It's probably the most offensive statement I've ever read on this board, and as I have a pretty good command of the literature, it represents an opinion I have not seen cited elsewhere.