Fuzzy dear. So sorry that you are having this type of hurtful aggravation. You do NOT deserve it!

I think many of us have likely had varying degrees & intensities of this, usually from the allegedly-well-meaning -- whether family, "friends", or health/MH "professionals. I don't think they realize how freaking INVALIDATING and BELITTLING ( and for some of us, quite destabilizing!) (sry for yelling ) their accumulated shyte is.

Oh but they are trying to be helpful, doncha know *bitter laugh*. It's for your owngood!!! @#$%!! *(Unprintable noises, all of them profane and highly impolite)*

For years and years I didn't talk back, bc any attempt to do so was decried as defensiveness or self-justification -- or worse. Now? My dear, I no longer give a flying damn if people don't like me or my attitudes. they are the attitudea I've had to formulate for my own survival -- and if others find that disappointing or offensive, well, suckage!

Does it hurt? Yeah; sometimes quite a lot. But I cannot let it make me unhealthy(ier).

A T I once had told us in small group that people who have this effect on us are like germs and bad weather: we need to develop a defense against them before we encounter them. She had us write down things to say and actions to perform to fortify ourselves against them. I thought it was supremely useless exercise at the time and was snortinglyly disdainful. lolol @myself, but, yanno -- I didn't know how hard some of this was gonna get!

It has been really useful to me to do that. IDK what your T recommends but I hate the fact that we have to armour ourselves against these toxic influences in our lives -- and even against our own negative self-talk -- but just know that we do.
Dammit.

Wishing you calm and strength and truth -- and blessing.

Love,

Chyia, sry so long-winded