If you are looking for friends, I recommend social groups such as meet-up. Sure I Understand you say it’s hard for you to socialize but you can start by trying one event and then leave early if uncomfortable

I’ve made some nice friends through meetup and even if you don’t make friends, you at least get out and do stuff with people.

I don’t recommend looking for friends on dating sites. “Looking for friends” is a code word for “not looking for commitment and just want to play around”. Women your age won’t reply to that. And in addition you don’t even have a picture. You can be anybody

Also ok Cupid is typically a hook up site so that is why you don’t see too many women your age. As people get older they are more likely to want something more than hook up.

If you want to date decent women your age I’d recommend you try other sites, paid ones. And I don’t recommend saying thst you are looking for friends. And you do need a picture

Now back to meet up idea. Are there any in your area? Movie groups? Walking groups?

Are you seeing a therapist? That might be plane to start working on your self esteem. Looks are subjective. I am not sure about weight. 180lb is not even much. If you are concerned about weight gain do talk to your doctor.

I just saw that you are a veteran, thank you for your service, are there any veteran groups that you can join?