I would find i had enough in common to relate to their situations, and it would give me a perspective on mine. Like, it was easier for me to think, "oh, he is SO lying to YOU, why cant you SEE?" or whatever, and then you see why she cant see, and then you see what you couldnt or wouldnt see in yourself. And why your t couldnt just poke it out of you.

I know, i talk too much!