Art, I got talked into an ACOA meeting once, and it was a horrible match. On the upside, I left feeling really great about myself because the people there were super messed up. The person who dragged me there said the groups vary widely. He had been going to one in another town and said this one wasn't to his liking either. So I guess, just go with an open mind, without thinking it's representative of all groups if you don't click. Think of it like an assignment from one of your psych classes, to give yourself a little room for objectivity. That way, if it doesn't suit you, meh, try another.