That, Sept, is a VERY good perspective! When I first read Rainbowzz's post, I thought "her mother will have to lie in the bed she's made for herself, because she's not going to get to see her grandchild at all if she keeps this up", but I think it's great that you are able to empathize with what are possibly her mom's underlying feelings and insecurities.

Rainbowzz, I do hope your mother can turn it around and start taking both herself and you seriously. You are doing the right thing by sticking to your boundaries. I don't know if your mom is capable of being brutally honest with herself, but maybe after she meets the baby and sees what she stands to lose with her behavior, she'll take a hard look at her relationship with you and will shape up